Here’s a whole host of excellent information to support you in the planning towards your big day. It includes the links to order your marriage licence as well vow ideas and readings etc. ENJOY!

Here are some planning downloads to start you off:

Things to consider for your wedding ceremony:

  • what’s the vision for your ceremony? ie. will one of you walk in with attendants? Will someone walk you up the aisle? Do you want fun and laughter, or a more serious ceremony? etc
  • would you like a reading/poem as part of your ceremony? They don’t need to be traditional they can be contemporary!) Also, consider who you might like to do this reading. Maybe there’s a couple of people you have in mind. Let’s get them involved! If not, I’m super happy to do these
  • would you like to light a candle in memory of someone during the ceremony? Just let me know. There are some lovely candles out there you can purchase, and I have a long-handled lighter we can use too
  • vows: will you write these from scratch? Do you need some inspiration? You’ll find some ideas below. I can also help each person, individually, write these, too – to keep it a surprise from each other
  • there are at least three songs included in each ceremony (walk up the aisle song, signing of the register song/music, celebration song at the end of ceremony/walk down the aisle song)
  • have a think about who you’d like as your two witnesses. They can be any two people who agree that you should be getting married, not necessarily people in your bridal party. They can be children – as long as they know what marriage means, and agree that you get married
  • during your wedding ceremony, when you’re signing the papers – use your maiden name, not your new married name

Now for the really important stuff!

Things to do, things to know, things to think about:

  • apply for your marriage licence online HERE. This needs to be done no more than three months before your wedding date, and no less than three days before. A marriage licence costs $150. This will then be emailed to you. You’re welcome to then forward the email to me, and I will print it out, bring it to rehearsal, and run through it with you.
  • rehearsal: if you are having a wedding as part of your ceremony, this is a great opportunity to meet in the days leading up to your wedding, and to see how you both are. Not all celebrants do this, but I like to physically check in with my couples, ensuring all is well. It’s also a good chance for the three of us to run over what we’ll do during the ceremony, in terms of who will stand where etc. It’s not compulsory for the whole bridal party to be there, as you can relay this information onto them anyway. However, it is a good opportunity to time the walking up the aisle to the music with the bridesmaids etc. If you have flowergirls and/or pageboys, it might be a good idea to invite them so they’re not in a foreign place around strange people (like me! ha!) on the wedding day.
  • what happens straight after the ceremony? You’ll need to consider who you might trust with your Copy of Particulars (this is one of the forms from Births, Deaths and Marriages, and what we fill out during the ceremony). One I keep to send to the Marriage Registrar at the Department of Internal Affairs to lodge your marriage, but the other is yours. This is the backup copy if anything happens when I submit the original document – so, I have to hand-deliver it to someone on the day. It’s a bit of a pain for one of your guests, but at least we know you’ve got one safe copy. Usually the MC takes care of things like this. It’ll be in a big envelope with your ceremony booklet and keepsake certificate
  • wanting to organise a marriage certificate? Easy! There are three ways: once your marriage is registered you can order one online using RealMe; you can order over the phone; and by post. Find out more HERE.

Vows, Readings, Music etc

  • Readings/poetry ideas for your ceremony – HERE.
  • Here are some ideas for incorporating te reo Māori into your ceremony, with a professional resource I purchased for my couples – Te Piringa Examples for couples.
  • Writing your vowsHERE. Remember, I’m super happy to help each of you write these. Just email me what you have, and I can turn them into vows for you! I’ll also print out each of your vows into a booklet when they’re ready!
  • Help out your MC with these notes – HERE.
  • Are you blended family? Would you like to offer a ‘promise’ to a child who is joining your family unit? HERE are some ideas.

We’ll get together soon and plan your ceremony but these are some ideas and resources to get you thinking in the meantime.