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Timeline yourself out of wedding stress

Spring is here so wedding season has arrived!

As a celebrant, what I’m hearing most from my couples is how they’re feeling overwhelmed with everything they have to do.

My biggest advice: write yourself a timeline. My best advice: work backwards.

Timelines seem logical but you’ve got to actually start one for it to be helpful. The procrastination in starting one is where on earth to start, and that’s why it’s best to start backwards, at the bottom of your Excel spreadsheet.

For example, if there are things that need to be dropped off in the days following your wedding, such as props or glasses you’ve hired, they go at the end, then you work yourself up the document to today.

Consider things such as:

  • The time you have to leave the reception by?
  • How you’re getting to your accommodation from the reception
  • What time is transport arriving to take guests home?
  • When is the band booked to play until?
  • When are last drinks being served?
  • What time would you like the first dance?
  • When will you cut the cake?
  • What time do you want the speeches to start, and who’s speaking in which order?
  • What time is the dinner served?
  • What time do you want the guests seated by?
  • How long will you be away taking photos?
  • When do drinks and canapes get served?

The above list is an example of working backwards. Once you spend a good couple of hours doing this, you’ll work up the Excel spreadsheet to the present day. This will save you a lot of time in overthinking so you can spend more time looking forward to your big day!

First published in Metropol
Written by Kineta Booker

What’s in a vow?

Public speaking is one of life’s biggest fears, so it’s no wonder many couples feel anxious when considering their wedding vows.

They’re a significant part of the ceremony. It’s often the only time the couple speaks to each other (other than the “I do’s”) during the formal part of the wedding.

Much of the anxiety comes from not knowing what to say to each other. Here are some tips:

  • The legal part: “I take you to be my husband…”
  • What your partner means to you
  • How your partner makes you feel
  • Some humour – if that’s your style
  • Your favourite quote to wrap it all up

Many celebrants will aid you in writing your vows, or even offer a list of suggestions to take inspiration from. Remember, your celebrant is there to guide you, so don’t be shy in asking for help.

If you’re still feeling nervous about public speaking, embrace it. It’s going to be one of the best days of your life, and many of us do it only once.

If you find that the “embrace” part still doesn’t help, consider this: you’re speaking directly to your mate, no one else. Feel excited that they’ll finally hear the words you’ve pondered over and written just for them.

 

First published in Metropol Magazine
Written by Kineta Booker

Lucky wedding traditions around the world

Lucky wedding traditions around the world

By Kineta Booker

If there’s one thing Hollywood has taught us, smashing plates at a Greek wedding is tradition. But what about the rest of the world?

The team at 888Poker has pulled together a list of 21 lucky traditions which include broom jumping, bell breaking, and running away.

Let’s start close to home. In Australia, some couples opt for the Unity Bowl. Each member of the bride and groom’s families are given a coloured stone which is unique to them. During the ceremony they each place the stone in a bowl which is then displayed at the couple’s home, symbolising how the families have coloured the couple’s life, and to remind the newlyweds of their families.

Some other traditions include:

  • Did you know that in Kenya the father of the bride spits on her head and chest to bring good luck to the bride
  • In an African-American wedding, the bride and groom jump over a broom at the end of the ceremony. Whoever jumps the highest is the decision maker in the household
  • Following a wedding in the Philippines, the couple release two white doves – symbolising a loving and successful marriage
  • The groom’s mother in Guatemala breaks a white ceramic bell filled with grains when the couple arrives, symbolising a prosperous marriage
  • A bell is also used in the Irish culture. It is rung after reciting the vows. The chime is said to ward off evil spirits
  • In the Korean culture, carved, wooden ducks or geese are thrown at the bride by her mother-in-law. If she catches one she will have a boy. If she doesn’t she will have a girl
  • Imagine running away during your wedding reception. That’s exactly what couples do in Venezuela. It’s good luck if they make it away without getting caught, and also good luck for anyone at the reception who realises they’re missing
  • Baumstamm Sägen is a wood-cutting ritual in Germany. The couple cut a piece of wood with a two-handled saw, symbolising the first obstacle they’ll get through as a married couple
  • In Japan, the couple, along with their parents, take part in a sake-sharing ceremony. They each take three sips from three cups. This formalises the bond between the families
  • Joota Chupai is a wedding tradition in India. The eldest unmarried girls from the bride’s family steal the groom’s shoes while his family try to get them back, usually through ransom. No one knows why they do this but it’s fun and gets everyone involved

Surprisingly, New Zealand has been missed from the research which means that we can start our own traditions. It’s more fun and creative that way!

Weddings needn’t take long to plan

There are lots of things to consider for your wedding but it need not take long to plan, writes Christchurch marriage celebrant Kineta Booker.

So, you just got engaged at the top of Conical Hill, and you’re very happily walking back down to the Hanmer village, hand-in-hand with your brand new fiancé, admiring your sparkling new diamond, whilst planning your whole wedding in your head, when he turns to you and says “You know we don’t have to get married right away, eh?”

Not how it went for you? Oh, maybe that was just me.

So, I ignored him and six months later we were married.

I know what you’re thinking, isn’t “obey” in wedding vows. Not ours.

And, besides, he wasn’t my husband at that point.

Six months to plan a wedding? Yes, it can definitely be done.

  • Chat with your partner about what their vision is. Discuss budget, number of guests, anything they specifically want to include
  • Get yourself in front of a computer. Open a new document – this is where you’ll download all your ideas onto. This can be anything from flowers to dresses (for wedding dress inspiration you can start here) and everything in between! Delete what you don’t need as you go along. You don’t want the file to become crowded with old ideas
  • On Facebook there are some great groups for engaged couples. It’s a community of people with a big thing in common – weddings! They’re either recent brides or brides-to-be. Check out Wedding Discussion Group – New Zealand, and Christchurch Brides NZ Ideas, Advice & Support
  • Pinterest is a good place to find themes and get great ideas, but beware – you may come away with too many. Find what you’re looking for and get out
  • Venues: What are you looking for? BYO option?
  • Photographers: Do you like their work? Fit your budget?
  • Celebrants: Are they available? Do you click?

Once you have all the main things organised, everything else will fall into place quickly. And the ideas shared on brides’ online forums, in real time, makes organising a wedding in a shorter time frame easy to do with like-minded cheerleaders doing the same thing.

Great NZ Bridal Show – Ts & Cs for the awesome deal!

So, you picked up one of these glorious cards and you’re considering taking up my (what can only be described as a blimmin awesome) deal from the Great NZ Bridal Show! Love it!

Here are just a couple of terms and conditions you’ll be interested in:

  • To get $150 off, your wedding must be in 2017 or 2018
  • I need to be available on your date (as I only do one wedding a day, and generally do not take Sunday weddings)
  • As with my full-priced weddings, fuel charges still apply if over 25km from my home
  • And, finally, if you would like to utilise my PA and mic (which you can hire for around $200 from other suppliers) you can hire mine for the ceremony for $50
  • All bookings must be confirmed with me by Sunday 23 April, 2017
  • This promotion is only for new couples I meet at the Great NZ Bridal Show, not for the lovelies who have already booked with me. Thanks for understanding.

Painless Ts&Cs, eh!

Any further questions, just flick me an email: kineta@kinetabooker.com

 

Kineta Booker – Christchurch Celebrant at Great NZ Bridal Show

If you’re planning a wedding and looking for some fabulous inspiration for your big day, grab a friend or your partner and head to the Great NZ Bridal Show.

And if you’re still yet to book your marriage celebrant, stop by my stand because I’ve got some wee treats I’d love to share with you.

‘Print on Wood’ by Printville

This is my favourite one: everyone who books with me before the end of April, will go in the draw for an original hand-made ‘Print on Wood’ from Printville. The talented Danny Knight-Baré will handcraft your favourite photo onto wood, which is a unique and fresh way to showcase the best moments of your life. It’s an alternative to traditional canvas and framed prints, made by hand here in Christchurch.

Find out more about them at www.printville.co.nz

See you Sunday at Addington Events Centre – 9am-3.30pm.

'Print on Wood' by Printville

‘Print on Wood’ by Printville

Review: Large-scale musical fits beautifully in small theatre

Mary Poppins. Presented by The Court Theatre, Christchurch. Co-Director/Choreographer Stephen Robertson, Co-Director Ross Gumbley. Musical Director Richard Marrett. 21 November 2015 – 30 January 2016. Reviewed by Kineta Knight Booker.

Watching a musical after the cast has put on over 60 performances, while expecting them to be as fresh as opening night and they deliver, shows the absolute endurance of a company.

The Court Theatre’s summer season is New Zealand’s first ever professional production of the Disney Broadway musical. And, to be fair, it could have gone either way. If you think of the big stages with extremely large theatres, seating hundreds upon hundreds of excited theatre-goers this show would be used to, compared to the intimate setting of The Court, there’s quite a difference. But boy did it work.

Having seen this production on Broadway, one can’t help but compare. However, sitting there mesmerised by The Court’s version, I somehow found myself lost in the magical world of Mary (Laura Bunting) and her chimney-sweep friend Bert (Jan Di Pietro). When Bunting and Di Pietro are on stage, Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke are long gone from your mind, as they bring their very own portrayal of these characters to the show. Bunting has a stunning stage presence and beautiful voice, and Di Pietro’s charm and wit shines through like none other.

The musical is staged with intelligence – what a team Robertson and Gumbley make. Their company numbers (of which there are many) were choreographed with expert guidance, and the skill of the performers was exceptional. In a normal run of this show, where usually there’d be an orchestra pit and possibly dozens of other rows of theatre-goers in the way, with The Court’s version the stage is so very close, however, never confrontational, but always spell-binding.

Other notable moments were the famous Feed the Birds scene, played by Lucy Porter, and the arrival (and departure!) of the unpleasant Miss Andrew, who was portrayed wonderfully by Angela Johnson. Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious was rich and vibrant (thanks to Robertson’s costume designs and choreography), and Step in Time was truly mesmerising.

The only downside to this performance, which was driven perfectly by Richard Marrett’s orchestra, was when it was time to leave the theatre, back to a reality without Mary Poppins. Even Mary’s flying exit was “practically perfect in every way”. The Court Theatre have truly put on the biggest and brightest summer show yet, but just how will they top it next Christmas?

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