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Timeline yourself out of wedding stress

Spring is here so wedding season has arrived!

As a celebrant, what I’m hearing most from my couples is how they’re feeling overwhelmed with everything they have to do.

My biggest advice: write yourself a timeline. My best tip: work backwards.

Timelines seem logical but you’ve got to actually start one for it to be helpful. The procrastination in starting one is where on earth to start, and that’s why it’s best to start backwards, at the bottom of your Excel spreadsheet.

For example, if there are things that need to be dropped off in the days following your wedding, such as props or glasses you’ve hired, they go at the end, then you work yourself up the document to today.

Consider things such as:

  • The time you have to leave the reception by?
  • How you’re getting to your accommodation from the reception
  • What time is transport arriving to take guests home?
  • When is the band booked to play until?
  • When are last drinks being served?
  • What time would you like the first dance?
  • When will you cut the cake?
  • What time do you want the speeches to start, and who’s speaking in which order?
  • What time is the dinner served?
  • What time do you want the guests seated by?
  • How long will you be away taking photos?
  • When do drinks and canapes get served?

The above list is an example of working backwards. Once you spend a good couple of hours doing this, you’ll work up the Excel spreadsheet to the present day. This will save you a lot of time in overthinking so you can spend more time looking forward to your big day!

Written by Kineta Booker

What’s in a vow?

Public speaking is one of life’s biggest fears, so it’s no wonder many couples feel anxious when considering their wedding vows.

They’re a significant part of the ceremony. It’s often the only time the couple speaks to each other (other than the “I do’s”) during the formal part of the wedding.

Much of the anxiety comes from not knowing what to say to each other. Here are some tips:

  • The legal part: “I take you to be my husband…”
  • What your partner means to you
  • How your partner makes you feel
  • Some humour – if that’s your style
  • Your favourite quote to wrap it all up

Many celebrants will aid you in writing your vows, or even offer a list of suggestions to take inspiration from. Remember, your celebrant is there to guide you, so don’t be shy in asking for help.

If you’re still feeling nervous about public speaking, embrace it. It’s going to be one of the best days of your life, and many of us do it only once.

If you find that the “embrace” part still doesn’t help, consider this: you’re speaking directly to your mate, no one else. Feel excited that they’ll finally hear the words you’ve pondered over and written just for them.

Written by Kineta Booker

Favourite products and services

Look wedding day perfect everyday

For those of us not born as flawless Greek gods or goddesses a little bit of prep might have to go into looking your absolute stunning best on your wedding day.

Heck, I remember my own husband getting a spray tan for our wedding – and it ended up being one of the funniest stories at the reception – thanks to his best man who’d discovered his secret.

But I say embrace the season. It’s your time to shine!

With the number of weddings I officiate each season, I always have to look like I haven’t just rocked up straight out of the shower. I, too, like to look my best at your wedding.

Here are some of my favourite products and services to look wedding day perfect everyday.


PRODUCTS


Beautifully bright wedding pearly whites!

I’ve had so many of my couples and friends try this whitening toothpaste and I’ve already seen some awesome results! It’s the secret to my confident smile.

It’s a whitening fluoride toothpaste which is selling out around the world. Here are the facts:
No peroxide or harsh abrasives
Protects enamel
Reduces plaque
Quickly removes red wine, coffee & nicotine stains
Safe for the whole family (two years plus)
Lovely MILD vanilla/mint flavour

Flick me a message if you’d like to give the toothpaste a go! kineta@kinetabooker.com


Luscious lashes!

How would you like gorgeous lashes, curled and lengthened by just using your mascara?
– No oils
– It’s water-based for sensitive eyes
– Perfect for eyelash extensions
– No fibres!

From the same people who brought us the whitening toothpaste. Let me know if you’d like to try some! kineta@kinetabooker.com


Get a natural-looking Eco Tan

What I love most about this product is that you apply it just like toner with just your hands to a clean face.

It feels like water and you basically can’t get the tanning process wrong. I wear this on my face, neck and décolletage.

Eco Face Tan Water makes your skin look so lovely and even that you can go without foundation – perfect for when you’re on honeymoon! But it’s also a great base for your wedding day beauty regime.

Use Google to find the best price for it, but I found THIS one to be cheapest at time of writing this.


Don’t forget sunscreen!

In all honesty, it makes my eyes roll every time I read people’s beauty tips ‘to always wear sunscreen’ – cos I hate* the stuff!

That was until I met Image Daily Ultra Sheer Spray SPF 45+. It’s an ultra-sheer, lightweight moisturising spray!

The reason I loathed sunscreen was because it was thick, gunky, hurt my sensitive skin, I couldn’t put make-up on because it wouldn’t sit on top of it etc etc.

Most of my weddings are outside so sunblock is actually one of the most important things in my celebrant’s beauty kit.

The only place I could find who stocks it in Christchurch actually turned out to be one of my most favourite places around – Making Faces (see eyebrows post below).

*Yes, hate is a strong word, but I’m sure you know what I mean now.


Wipe your makeup away with just water!

Throw away those horrendous makeup wipes you bought at the supermarket, unless they have ingredients you know and recognise in them.

Norwex makeup wipes are all you need! Just use water!

The company is changing the way of living by offering chemical-free products and cloths.

Those who have met me (and also by reading above) you’ll know I like to wear makeup… Quite a bit of makeup… And this is exactly how I take it off each day – with a damp Norwex cloth! No cleanser, just water! My skin has never looked or felt this good! (The cloths also come with a two-year warrantee!)

Flick me a message if you’d like to know more! kineta@kinetabooker.com


SERVICES


My biggest secret… shhhh!

OK, so I talk about how my whitening toothpaste is the secret to my confident smile, but do you want to know my biggest secret? My eyebrows!

I was blessed with mediocre brows growing up but thanks to Making Faces in Ferrymead, I’ve now been blessed with amazing brows!

Great brows frame the face beautifully. Micropigmentation is applied by Pip at Making Faces to form the perfect brow for your face shape.

My first appointment was in March 2016, and there’s never been a day that I’ve regretted getting it done. I expect to need a top up every 2-5 years.

Perfect for your wedding day! Just make sure you book in well in advance. They’re a very popular place.


Perfect hair every time

I first met Stewart Corkin when I presented a daily show on CTV. Out of the plethora of choice we have in Christchurch, he was my chosen and preferred stylist, and was so happy that he could do my wedding hair, too.

Having a great relationship with the person who performs magic on your hair on your wedding day is so important because, frankly, it’s a nerve-wracking time.

Stewart handled my dramatics with ease… probably with a glass of bubbly and a goss.

Get yourself a Stewart Corkin, or maybe even contact the man himself at Corkin + Friends. Tell him I sent you x


The most beautiful eyes!

I don’t know how she does it, but Fiona Maguire knows how to master perfect eyes. And flawless skin.

So, she was an obvious choice for my wedding day.

Fiona, too, was someone I worked with while on CTV, so I knew her and her craft well. She’s an absolute stunner!

Email me and I’ll put you in touch with her – kineta@kinetabooker.com


Lucky wedding traditions around the world

Lucky wedding traditions around the world

By Kineta Booker

If there’s one thing Hollywood has taught us, smashing plates at a Greek wedding is tradition. But what about the rest of the world?

The team at 888Poker has pulled together a list of 21 lucky traditions which include broom jumping, bell breaking, and running away.

Let’s start close to home. In Australia, some couples opt for the Unity Bowl. Each member of the bride and groom’s families are given a coloured stone which is unique to them. During the ceremony they each place the stone in a bowl which is then displayed at the couple’s home, symbolising how the families have coloured the couple’s life, and to remind the newlyweds of their families.

Some other traditions include:

  • Did you know that in Kenya the father of the bride spits on her head and chest to bring good luck to the bride
  • In an African-American wedding, the bride and groom jump over a broom at the end of the ceremony. Whoever jumps the highest is the decision maker in the household
  • Following a wedding in the Philippines, the couple release two white doves – symbolising a loving and successful marriage
  • The groom’s mother in Guatemala breaks a white ceramic bell filled with grains when the couple arrives, symbolising a prosperous marriage
  • A bell is also used in the Irish culture. It is rung after reciting the vows. The chime is said to ward off evil spirits
  • In the Korean culture, carved, wooden ducks or geese are thrown at the bride by her mother-in-law. If she catches one she will have a boy. If she doesn’t she will have a girl
  • Imagine running away during your wedding reception. That’s exactly what couples do in Venezuela. It’s good luck if they make it away without getting caught, and also good luck for anyone at the reception who realises they’re missing
  • Baumstamm Sägen is a wood-cutting ritual in Germany. The couple cut a piece of wood with a two-handled saw, symbolising the first obstacle they’ll get through as a married couple
  • In Japan, the couple, along with their parents, take part in a sake-sharing ceremony. They each take three sips from three cups. This formalises the bond between the families
  • Joota Chupai is a wedding tradition in India. The eldest unmarried girls from the bride’s family steal the groom’s shoes while his family try to get them back, usually through ransom. No one knows why they do this but it’s fun and gets everyone involved

Surprisingly, New Zealand has been missed from the research which means that we can start our own traditions. It’s more fun and creative that way!

Choosing the right celebrant

Dressing beautifully, spending precious time with your family and friends, drinking champagne, and laughing and enjoying your day away is exactly what you should look forward to at your wedding. But don’t forget to make it legal! Book a celebrant.

If you think it’s a bit of a drag meeting lots of celebrants to find the right fit for you, here’s a couple of tips to see who could make a short list before you even start approaching people.

  • Check out their website. What’s it like? Is it engaging? Informative? Do they have a calendar? Are they available on your wedding date?
  • Check their Facebook. Do they sound and look interesting? What’s their feedback like? How do they communicate and talk with others on their Facebook page?
  • Are they a member of CANZ (Celebrants Association of New Zealand)? You should find this information on their website, if not, look them up on www.celebrantsassociation.co.nz. It’s not mandatory for a celebrant to be a member but it’s a professional group and they support celebrants to deliver high-quality services

By finding out a little bit about each celebrant on their website and Facebook page, it gives you insight into what they’re like rather than just a name on a computer screen.

Once you’ve set a time to meet here are some things to think about:

  • Do you like them? Do they seem caring and kind? Obvious questions but you’ve got to like them cos they’ll be there when you’re most vulnerable – standing in front of many people, speaking your vows and saying “I do”
  • Are they warm and friendly? It’s not just you and your bridal party that will spend time with them, it’s your families and your guests too before you arrive
  • Are they enthusiastic and listen to what you want? If they don’t think your idea will work, they’re not right for you. It is your day, and a good celebrant will want you to fulfill your dream of 100 kittens walking you down the aisle
  • What do they charge, and what do they offer as part of their fee? Is it within your budget? Maybe it’s $50 or $100 more than you’d hoped, but my advice is go for them if they’re your perfect match.

Sure, it’s like a job interview or an awkward first date, but if they’re the right celebrant fit for you, don’t be shy in telling them at the meeting. You wouldn’t want the good one snapped up by another couple who loves them the very next day.

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